Thus says the LORD:We either trust God or we trust something else, usually man, whether it is ourselves, another person, or a man-made system. It's not wrong to trust people, but when we trust people above God, we are walking on dangerous ground. Jeremiah says that the one who trusts in man has a heart which turns away from the Lord. The result is that he is parched, dry, and sees no good. For the one who places all of his trust in man above God, this parched condition will ultimately show up when trials come. Human friends don't always stick around when trials come, but God will not forsake us.
"Cursed is the man who trusts in man
and makes flesh his strength,
whose heart turns away from the LORD.
He is like a shrub in the desert,
and shall not see any good come.
He shall dwell in the parched places
in the wilderness
in an uninhabited salt land.
Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when the heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
for it does not cease to bear fruit."
When we have a crisis, where do we turn first? Does turning to God in prayer come second, or even last? Do we run to a close friend before God? Our husbands? Our siblings? Our parents? Where do we find our value? Are we more worried about what others think than God? If we walk through a trial, these things will be revealed.
As women we are encouraged to be in relationships with people, especially other women. And we need those relationships. We need to be encouraged in the things of God and we need to minister to others. But it is very easy to put more emphasis on what others think of us than is good.
I picked up the book Trust, by Lydia Brownback, and I liked what she had to say about the risk of trusting too much in people:
Consider your motivations in showing love to others. If you detect an underlying compulsion to obtain a compliment or word of approval, it's a pretty sure bet that you have placed your well-being in their hands.
Desiring the love and approval of the significant people in our lives is natural; however, if we feel we must have that to be happy, then a good desire has become a destructive one. We are attributing to people what rightfully belongs to God, which is why we are never able to live at rest with ourselves and at peace with others.In this world of "likes" and "re-tweets," and sharing of links, it can be a very subtle thing to begin living for the approval of others. We may think we're putting God first because we travel only in Christian circles, or because our intent is to use social media to spread the gospel. But if we're restless and frustrated when we're not getting the attention we feel we deserve, that is a sign that our priorities may be off.
Notice the contrast in the Jeremiah passage: the one who trusts in flesh is a shrub; a little shrub, living in a parched, dry land. The one who trust is God is a tree, tall, strong, flourishing, and well-fed. Perhaps our times of feeling spiritually dry and frustrated are symptoms that we are trusting in man more than God. When it comes right down to it, whom do we trust? It's a question worth asking.