Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Book Review - Living Without Worry

Last time I posted, I shared a quotation from the book Living Without Worry by Timothy Lane. I said at the time that I thought it would be a good book, and I was not mistaken. It is a great book for people who struggle with worry.

Lane begins with defining what worry is and is not, and why we shouldn't do it. He discusses worry in the context of our past, present, and future, and then moves into practical steps to help those who struggle with worrying.

I found Lane's definition of worry helpful. He defines it as "over-concern." There is nothing wrong with being concerned. It is what we as mothers have when our children are playing outside near the road, or are sick with a fever. When it begins to take over our lives, it becomes worry, or over-concern. Lane borrows a phrase from the Bible scholar, Dick France, to clarify his definition: it is over-concern about something other than the kingdom of God. I found that helpful, to think about worry as it relates to our place in the kingdom of God. That is something Lane refers to again in the book.

Lane reminds us that worry can be a reflection of what we love:
... worry is over-concern that results from "over-loving" something -- that is, loving it more than God. Concern results when you love something in the proper way and not more than God. Indifference is a lack of love. It is the opposite of worry, not the antidote or cure for worry.
The principle that worry is a reflection of our attitude toward God is repeated often, and though it is a hard thing to hear, Lane does not come across as harsh. He recognizes that some people are more prone to worry, and it is something they will battle.

In the ninth chapter, Lane gives practical suggestions, beginning with the verse that most worrisome people have had others share with them many times: I Peter 5:6-11. Casting our cares on God means relating to God personally. Lane says:
When you are struggling with anxiety, you must talk to and relate to God. There is no other way to experience lasting, abiding change, for this is the only way to change our hearts. 
Lane's suggestion for fostering that heart change is to meditate on Scripture, specifically the Psalms. He gives a helpful list of Psalms which are good for that purpose, and then he takes the reader through Psalm 27 (one of my favourites!) as an example. Many of the Psalms show a person struggling with worry and anxiety, and we can learn a lot about how we ought to relate to God at that moment, and how he relates to us.

The last chapter shows what Jesus himself said about worry as he gave words to in a vision to Paul (Acts 18:9-11) while he was in Corinth. In a nutshell, he said, "Don't be afraid; keep on speaking; don't be silent." His reassuring words to Paul were, "I am with you," and I think that is the truth we have to tell ourselves over and over again, even when it feels like we're only repeating it in vain. We have to live by faith even when we feel like we can't do it. I liked Lane's words on this matter:
Faith involves doing the very opposite of what comes naturally. And sometimes it feels wooden and insincere, but it is not. Don't be fooled by your mere emotions. While it is often good to have your emotions right in step with your behavior, it is not always the case.
If we wait until we don't feel worried to keep on keeping on, we may never take another step forward during those anxious times. It can be paralyzing.

This book was very readable without glossing over the truth. Lane does not try to candy coat the issue, and is very clear about the fact that worry is sin. But he is not harsh about it, and his words offer hope. There are always going to be things to worry about. Some seasons, they are worse than others. But they will come. We can grow through them by learning to battle them, and I think this book has a lot of great suggestions to help us with that.

2 comments:

  1. Thanks for this great review Kim. I'm definitely going to add this to my recommend list.

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